15 YEAR'S BLESSED & LOVED

Fifteen years is a long time in the lifespan of an individual, by any measure. After all, even a life sentence lasts only 14 years. So today, I cannot help feeling a sense of achievement, a sense of wonder, a sense of quiet accomplishment and a deep joy on completing 15 years of marriage. If I claimed that all the fifteen years were ‘picture perfect’ I would be lying. There were a lot of ‘pictures’ yes, but they were far from perfect! I was 23 when I met Kiran; fell totally, madly and completely in love with him. Without a moment’s hesitation, just 40 days after meeting him. (yes, we got married within just 40 days of meeting each other!) 15 years I have grown along the way & So has he. The road has sometimes been rocky. The path has not always been smooth. But when I look back, I have had more joy and more happiness than I could ever hope to have from anyone else. But the fact is, he has been supportive to me, as much as I have been to him. We have together learnt a lot in these fifteen years. We have learnt when to take the driver’s seat and when to be navigator. When to let go and when to hold on. Sometimes it is best not to say anything and to hold back your words, especially when you are angry. We have learnt that sometimes, when the other person has withdrawn into an angry shell you have to chase and poke and prod and pursue till they come out, yet sometimes you have to let them be. But most importantly we have learnt that if a relationship is important to you, it is worth doing just about anything to make it work and to keep it going. Especially if you have invested so much time into it, spent time together laughing, enjoying, having fun, then you should never neglect it. One should weed out discontent right at the roots. Stamp it. Kill it. Feed the positivity. Express what you feel. Make it grow. Remember that love remains but it's expression often changes - Learn to notice and appreciate the small but endless gestures of love and concern your husband makes. Remember that it is the two of you against the world and not against each other - I am not saying wage a war against the world, against your families or friends but try not to fight over them. Don't make every issue you have with others into a fight between yourselves. Show a united front to the world, never pull each other down in front of others. Remember that if your husband has changed, so have you - Acknowledge what has changed for the better, he maybe more responsible, caring, considerate than before. Remember that every promise may not be fulfilled - We need to let go and not hold on to anger and resentment. Remember that it's okay to not finish every argument - It's okay to pause an argument and talk about it the next day because everything does seem better in the morning after the night's sleep. But it's also okay to decide not to argue. 

 Last but not the least....Remember to talk, talk and always talk - Communication is the most important thing in a marriage. Never compare your marriage with any other - Live your marriage the way you want to, the way it makes you feel happy and content.

 Marriage is meant to be fun - The day you got married, you couldn't wait to begin your life together. Now try to enjoy this life together.....😇👨👩👧❤